Jim Fausone, Esq.
Veteran Disability Lawyer
We often report on
the issues and hardships facing our nation’s veterans. But what many don’t
realize is the impact these returning veterans have on families and their
children. Life goes on after and life beyond the touching homecoming video clip
or news report and it is not always a “happily-ever-after” scenario.
It's estimated that
as many as 5 million kids have had a parent or sibling serve in Iraq or Afghanistan since 9/11.
Approximately 30%, or 1.5 million, of those kids are significantly more likely
to consider suicide and have mental health problems compared to non-military
kids.
A recent 60 Minutes report
told the story of 15 year old Abigail Barton, who expected her father, an Iraq
War veteran, to return home and still be the “fun parent” that he was before he
left. That was not the case.
Abigail’s older brother,
Alex, attempted to commit after his dad returned home. Their mother said it has
been “devastating” for her kids to see the changes in their father as he deals
with the post-traumatic stress of Iraq . It is as if they, too, are
dealing with PTSD.
And sadly, the
Barton kids receive no help from their school or the VA.
The VA spent almost
$500 million last year for PTSD treatments for veterans of Iraq and Afghanistan . But their family
members may receive counseling "if determined to be essential to the
effective treatment and readjustment of
the veteran."
Simply put,
veterans’ kids who have mental health issues are largely on their own, if they
get help at all. Compounding the problem is a lack of awareness on this issue.
Christal Presley,
who has started a group called United Children of Veterans, had a similar experience with her father, Delmer
Presley, a Vietnam
veteran. “While my dad was hiding away in his room, I would lock myself away in
my room," Christal said in the 60
Minutes report. "I would vacillate between depression and rage just
like my father."
Then, at the age of
30, Christal began picking up the phone to get her father to talk about the
war. After dozens of phone calls, slowly, her father began opening up. And
talking helped both Christal and her father.
After a lifetime of
silence, Christal dared to go public and shared her story in a blog that went
viral and eventually became a book. She's received emails from thousands of
veterans and the children of veterans as far back as WW II. "I think part
of me still feels the relief of, 'Christal, you're not alone,'" she told 60 Minutes. "And the other part of
me feels so sad, because I wasn't alone."
Christal says that
now she understands that talking and sharing your story can be a matter of life
and death.
The stories of
veterans’ lives upended by PTSD are all too familiar, however, we should not
forget about their children whose stories are unknown – and children who are on
their own in dealing with their mental health issues.
You can learn more
about Christal Presley’s United Children of Veterans at her website, http://unitedchildrenofveterans.com/.
Watch the 60 Minutes report here: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/collateral-damage-the-mental-health-issues-facing-children-of-veterans/
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